Friday, March 7, 2014

What A Guy Really Means When He Says “Just Friends”……

This post will be short and to the point. Is it just me or does it seem like kids are dating younger these days and becoming intimate with each other without understanding the emotional ramifications of a romantic relationship? A lot of young people use their bodies like a revolving door. No discretion. No discrimination. Everybody has access. It’s scary. I’m not going to say too much because I don’t want to betray my sex and I definitely won’t do any male bashing because there are still some good dudes out there (like me) who know how to treat and appreciate a woman. However, I have a mother, a wonderful woman in my life, I have great female supporters who I consider friends and sisters, and one day I hope to have a daughter. That being said I want to help young girls get a clue about the “Friendship Game.” When you hear the phrase “just friends” brace yourself for a rude awakening. The “Just Friends” card is a tactic that some men use to let a female know that he’s not interested in anything serious. He doesn’t want a commitment or emotional attachments. He prefers for you to have very little expectation of him. He’s not trying to be your boyfriend or man and he’s not interested in hearing about your wedding fairytale. He doesn’t want to invest in a monogamous journey with you. In other words, he doesn’t want the job but he does want the benefits. 9 times out of 10 he’s just looking for some mutually beneficial passionate fun, otherwise known as sex ladies. Some wise person once said that a man will only do to you what you allow him to do to you. They were right. When you set boundaries and standards, a man knows that he has to meet those standards if he wants to have you in his life. When you settle for whatever he’s offering versus making your own demands ladies, you can’t be upset when he leaves you disappointed and disillusioned. If you accept this casual arrangement then you shouldn’t expect the formalities of courtship. He’s not courting you. He doesn’t need to. After all you gave him all you had to offer in the friend zone. He already got what he wanted. Why does he need to pursue you further? My advice to young and older women alike…..if you want better, be better and demand better. This is what I plan to tell my daughter one day. My advice to young men…..be a real dude and respect a woman with standards. And if you really want to be a man, rise to the occasion. Just a little friendly advice from a man who knows how to appreciate a good thing when he has it. I would love to hear your comments so hit me up below.


YOLO,
Robert