****Why would he be with you?***
What's Up?
I've been asked a question, so let me answer it. Why do a guy deal with a chick while he's in prison, then he don't deal with her once he gets out? Well, he may have every intention on dealing with her once he get out or maybe not. I'll get to that... First it's important for the woman to keep the relationship that she has with the dude in perspective. If they are friends, she should be that, a loyal and supportive friend. She should be mature enough to handle being just that and don't try to force nothing on a dude.
The relationship changes when a woman is claiming to be a guys woman or wife. The expectations of her are a lot more. Women should be mindful that we have a lot of time to think about everything, and we don't forget nothing, because we constantly are thinking about it. Ladies the worst thing you can do is make you man, husband, or friend feel that he's not a priority, or that he's not important. The worst thing to do is not keep your word. If you tell him that you'll be to visit-- make sure you show-up. Don't have him sitting there looking crazy. If you tell him that you took care of something-- do it. Don't tell him that you sent something knowing that you are on games. How do you think this makes him feel? This is only building a resentment within him towards you.
And ladies that are supporting your man financially, I'd like to first commend you for that. Because I see more females holding guys down. It's not too often that the dudes he was in the street with are there. Honestly, it's hurts my pride to ask anyone for something, but I'm just now getting to the point where I swallow that pride and ask for some help. It might be because I've been doing for myself for so long. Let me get back on track... If a guy is depending on you financially (you know he needs a little help), and he ask you for something and you are not in a postion to do it, just let him know. He should respect that. But, don't be blowing kush and drinking everytimg he talks to you, he's going to be feeling a way-- like damn, I thought you were doing bad. Yeah I know it's your cash. I'm just letting you know how he's thinking.
And you really can't be mad if he decides not to be with you, if you have been misrepresenting him while he's been gone. Sleeping with his friends, foes, and people that he know is not a good look. I only know a few that has the discipline to keep their legs crossed. Why would a guy want to come be with you after all this? And if your were talking to him any type of way, playing him side-ways while he is down, you can't be mad when he keeps it moving. I always tell guys don't allow anybody to play you like a dude that's locked-up, just because of your situation. You write strangers on Facebook & Twitter, so you can write him just as often through the mail, or on jpay. Time and attention is best gift that you can give a guy that's doing time.
I honestly have a few friends that treat me better, than most of these guys woman and wife treat them... I'm just the type that rewards loyalty, these women will always have a friend in me--- regardless of who I'm with... Shout out to the real ones. Ladies, say thanks to the woman that asked me this question if you don't like what I'm saying. You have to love him while he's down, not just when he's up. And if you feel that he needs to mature while he's down, maybe you can be the person that helps him mature. If he wants to argue everytime he calls and all that kind of crazy stuff... I see why you feel the way that you do-- tell I said grow up. Don't get me wrong, 'yall may have to work through a few issues, but it shouldn't be craziness. Oh yeah, if you trust him, and you're not shy- you must bless him with the panty shoots... Smile... LOL She thought she was holding him down, but everything she was doing was pushing him away.
Signing off-- Robert
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